by Brean Schell

Created on: April 22, 2009

She walks into the pub, eyes on the bartender and nowhere else, she's only after a drink because it's been a long day and she wants to unwind a little. Her jackets still on and its worn in, but nor worn out, the jeans are seasons old but look fantastic on a figure that is well taken care of. Her belt and shoes match, her hair is tidy but a little mussed and she slouches, comfortable in her environment. Only when she has her drink, simple, nothing fancy, and nothing strong, does she scan the dive she's walked into only because it was close. Man, is she cool. She is cool because she doesn't care that she's walked into the most talked about bar in the area, or that she's in (probably) the worlds only lesbian suburb, or that she looks totally out of place among the trendies and the fashionistas. She is cool because she walked in and owned her space, and doesn't even realize that every single woman there wants her, or wants to be her.

Lesbian cool is about being who you are and owning the space you're in. Its about living without worrying about what's around the corner, waiting to throw you off track, because you know you will meet it and defeat it, brush your jeans down and keep dancing. Lesbian cool is 'being' not 'doing' and can't be taught, or caught or passed on down the line.

Fashions, trends, gadgets and the 'in' things come and go at a lightning quick pace, and we're all playing catch up to what we see, hear and taste. Someone's already wearing that jacket, those jeans or that hat, so its cool, but it's not groundbreaking, no risk. You might be wearing the right clothes, listening to the right music and going to the right clubs and pubs but you will never be as cool as her.

Forget the clothes and the music and the location. Own the space your in an make it yours. By that I don't mean your house or flat, I mean your own personal space. Lift you head woman, pull your shoulders back and walk a little taller. Don't ignore that dude on the corner giving you the eye, eye him right back and don't pull that glare away until he does. Because you are cool. Know it and it will be so. Cool is being yourself and totally unapologetic about it, and that aura of self confidence that you will grow because you know it doesn't matter what anyone else is doing unless they're watching you, screams out to the world: "look at me and watch me walk away because I am cooler than you".

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