by Lauren Ice

Created on: April 22, 2009

Although your heart doesn't physically break, you are emotionally shattered when the person you love, no longer loves you. Whether you discovered their infidelity or they dropped the bomb on you out of the blue, it hurts. The following nine things are great to remember following a break-up.

1. Cry. Lay in your bed and let go. Mourn your lost relationship. Maybe you were only together a few months, or maybe you thought they were the "one", either way get out your tissues and weep.

2. Talk about it. When you catch your breath from crying, call your friends. Tell them everything that happened, talk about your relationship and how sad you are. Vent all your anger to them and let out all the emotions you are feeling. You will feel better just talking about it.

3. Begin your new routine. Things will be different now. Many couples have a regular routine. You may have always gone on out Friday nights or maybe he called you while he drove home from work. Adapting to things not being the same is sometimes the hardest part of a break up.

4. Do things they hated. If she hated you walking around in your underwear eating Doritos, do it. Watch movies she hated. Eat at that Mexican place she never let you go to. Hang out with those friends of yours that she hated. Do it all in spite of them.

5. Stay busy. Go to work and then out for drinks. Find a new hobby, chat on the Internet excessively, or get a new pet. Fill up every second of your day with something. The less time you have, the less chances you have to have a nervous breakdown.

6. Do not call them! You will get lonely. You will have moments of weakness when you think that everything would be better if they would just come back. When this happens think back to the biggest fight you ever had with them. Get mad about it again. Remember their worst habits. Now, still don't call them.

7. Do not sleep with them. Don't be his booty call. Some women think that because he is sleeping with you, he loves you. Most men know that this isn't true. Just because he is in your bed, doesn't mean he's yours again.

8. Allow yourself to have fun. Go out with your friends and have a drink. While you're at it concentrate on having fun. Smile, pretend if you have to, but have a good time.

9. Know you will survive. It sucks, really bad, but almost everyone has gone through a break-up and we are all O.K. now. As cliche as it sounds, time heals all wounds. Make it through today, and worry about tomorrow later.

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