by Georgia S. Peaches

Created on: April 21, 2009

In truth, being adopted is more of a distraction of thoughts to a child, then a debilitating emotional experience. Most of the way they think about the adoption, and the aspects of how and why it happened, will depend on how their parents and family react and discuss the issue.

If it becomes a taboo topic that no one talks about and that their isn't any information to, than the child may feel that it is a negative thing to be adopted, or they might feel guilty because they want to know about it and don't know who to ask. This is why it's very important as an adoptive parent, to remember to be open and honest about the experience and any information that you do know about, and to tell the child as early as possible about it. If the adoption is closed and you don't know much, than that's all you have to tell them. But give them the comfort that when they are old enough to find their parents, that you will help them search.

If your family is open and honest about the topic of your child's adoption, then they most likely will not be to bothered by it. Only being occasionally distracted by the idea of meeting their biological parents one day. It can be a long standing fascination to see people who look like you, or to learn where those strange habits come from. Even if the child had a great childhood and knows that you love them, they may still wonder what their biological mother of father looked like.

Being adopted should never be considered a traumatizing experience, as some people will tell it to be. Its only natural to want to meet them the birth parents, even if there is no logical reason for it, and surrogate parents should never feel like they have done something wrong when their child wants to know more about the adoption. A childs or person curiosity about their biological selves is not a bad thing, and it doesn't mean they want to replace you as a parent. They just want to know.

Even with all that positive mojo going, and all the pro-active steps a parent can take to shield their child by being emotionally effect by adoption, there are always the few in the bunch who will still find it strange, offensive or wrong that they were adopted. They may feel anxious, confused or afraid of what being adopted means, and sometime they will feel like an alien in their own family In that case, the best thing to do is try your best to comfort them and help them through the coping process of realizing that their isn't anything wrong with them, and that its okay to be adopted.

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