by Anne Seyor

Created on: April 18, 2009

The importance of committed companionship from a best friend.

I was lying in bed pondering who the next person I would call best friend would be. I am only twenty-two years old so that means I have only lived one quarter of the average human life span and I am already wondering who the seventh person next in line will be. I live an ordinary life,
there's nothing extraordinary about me and I think I have as 'normal' a life as anyone else. I know a best friend is viewed differently to all kinds of people. I counted my first best friend as the kid who lived next door to me, I think she was the only friend I had when I was one year old. My second best friend was the first friend I made when I started primary school, she was the buddy I was paired with to give me the tour of our school. Amelia and I remained friends until she left for America when primary school finished. I never made a best friend in my two years of intermediate school. When high school started I became friends with three other girls at an all girls' school and we remained together for five years. I guess we were best friends although the closeness wasn't the same as what I shared with Amelia. During these years I met Benny. We attended the same tennis club and we shared many common interests. He asked me out but I said no. We remained good friends. He called me his bestest friendest. A few years later he was called for National Service so he returned to his homeland. When high school finished, the girls and I went our own ways but promised to meet together regularly. Unfortunately we all led busy and new lives. I think I was too busy at university to develop best friends'

friendship with my peers, they seem too busy as well. During these years I was spending more time with a friend I knew from youth group. We never made an official best friend acknowledgement to each other but she was probably my most trusted confidant at that time. Somewhere down the road we grew apart, she began to talk to another friend more. Rejection was at my door. I struggled on with life. I met a new friend, she and I confided deeply about the problems in our lives then she grew busy and distant. I wasn't a priority. I have asked myself why.

I don't think having a buddy or best friend of the same sex to confide in is known as valuable by a lot of people. There's no class that teaches this lesson. I want my readers to know that having a close relationship with your partner is valuable but having a best friend of the same sex

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