by Daisy Weedman

Created on: April 16, 2009   Last Updated: April 30, 2009

I don't respond at all, it may be hard for some women to understand but it sometimes helps a relationship. My husband has a very high sex drive and I have a low drive so when you add a busy family to the mix sex becomes a chore. <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

I don't always want to have sex and he does so one way or another he will find a way to relieve himself, respectfully. So when my hubby goes online to look it doesn't bother me. I once asked him why and he honestly said " would you rather me look at it online or on t.v. or go out and find someone in person." You can just imagine what my answer was "NO", there is a line though that has to be set up before.

When you start sharing emails and pictures of each other it is a form of cheating that can't be tolerated. If it has gone that far then yes you do have a problem. See, my husband doesn't have an email address nor can he download or upload anything and we had that talk when we first got the computer, if you don't set boundaries then you are free to do as you please.

The real question about this is "Why are you responding this way when he looks at porn", and "What were you told that made porn a bad thing for you". Society has made porn a bad thing or something unnatural, but we are in 2009 not back in the 1950's. Porn is dated all the way back to when cameras were first invented and most of the complication of porn was developed by the high class folks of way back then and it has put an imprint on us the new society that porn is dirty and unnatural when they themselves had sex just not in front of a camera.

You have to be comfortable in your relationship and when your not it causes problems whether its porn or how to raise your kids there has to be a discussion before hand. So whether you are the person looking at it or the person that thinks it's disgusting you have to have an open mind when it comes to porn. Either you like or not but most men, well let's be honest all men and some women look at it either openly or secretively.

Choose your battles carefully some are just not worth the fight....Be comfortable in your own skin and don't let anyone influence you in your decisions. Make the most out of your life that you can, we only have this one life to make that lasting impression on the next generation and the people we care about to worry over the little things in life that aggravate us it to waste precious time we can't get back. It isn't as bad as you think it is and the more you think and analyze it you will finally see it wasn't worth worrying about...

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