by Jamie Craig

Created on: April 16, 2009

Adults are all too aware that teenage relationships, especially "these days" are fuelled by hormones and curiosity, as well as the usual emotions that anyone will feel. This is perhaps the reason why the stakes feel so high for teenagers when they are in a relationship. It is a purely experience based perspective as a mature adult to be able to say to a teenager that they will get over it and find someone else. However for the teenager this surely must seem like a naive and probably clichd piece of advice to be given. This article suggests some ideas on how to move on from a relationship, it isn't fool proof and I'm certainly not going to pretend that the ideas are going to work for everyone but it does offer some advice to those in need.

1. Give yourself some time to breathe.

You may be full with feelings of resentment or sadness, probably depending on who was the person to end the relationship. My point however is that you'll probably have a lot of negative emotions related to your former partner. It is therefore probably a good idea if you spent time away from them and gave yourself some time to calm down from what was probably a hectic end to the relationship. This may be a just a few days or a week or so, and admittedly you'll probably spend more time thinking about the person than you would if you'd kept yourself busy, but this is a completely natural thing to do. You will need to sort out your thoughts about the relationship in order to move on successfully and continue to lead your life without any resentment or anger towards that person.

2. Continue with your routine.

Some articles advise you to keep busy, although personally I never found this a good idea when handling a break up. A much more successful strategy in my opinion would be to continue with your usual routine, whether this means doing your homework at a certain time, going to work, or just watching your favourite TV show then you should continue to do these things. This allows you to convince yourself that life goes on without this person, it is a much more productive spending of time than just sulking and it will give you some else to think about for a short period of time.

3. Talk to friends and family.

I was never very good at talking to my family about relationships, and I generally stuck to seeking the advice of my friends. I have talked to my parents about relationships in the past and I admit that it did make me feel better, however it tends to be an uncomfortable experience for a teenager,

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