by Judy Thompson

Created on: April 16, 2009

With today's world and stress within society, there is an increasingly amount of domestic violence. I am a domestic violence survivor of the 90's, when the laws were not fully developed yet on this issue. I lost a child in this situation due to the hands of that man. It is not very easy to speak of such things and many women feel down on theirselves, as if they could do something different, due to the fact of the emotional and mental abuse that coincides with domestic violence. The women, also, start blaming themselves and trying to rationalize their thoughts, as to what they did wrong. When the reality comes down that they didn't do anything wrong at all.

I have, also, known men going throughthe same thing at times, too...where they have an abusive wife. It is not that uncommon to hear such things in today's world. The financial situations within families are the cause of much of this turmoil. Why money matters, so much? Who knows! But it does. I mean, YES, it is good to have money, but when it starts interfering with the family, then you wonder where your morals and true values of self are at, especially when taking it out upon another.

A lot of it, too, has to do with the way that you were raised. If you were raised about violence within the family. That is a dark cloud that is hard to cover up and play like nothing ever happened. The scars from the childhood coming out to play in adulthood. It could also be drug and alcohol abuse, which none of these combinations are good and can lead to a deadly situation. This is why it is so important for people to talk to their children and get the help that they need, if they have witnessed these events, so that the scars do not carry with them for the rest of their lives, as most will feel that it is OK to do so, cause daddy beat mommy or vice versa.

I speak from my heart on this and hope that I can reach a person going through the same and help them seek help before it is too late. Nothing should be taken for granted and no one should have to walk on eggshells or live unhappy. So if you are in an abusive relationship, do not ever think it is going to get better...cause it will only get worse unless you seek help and get help for the person who is abusing. As the family is the one that suffers the most from all of this and without that help, one or all can become lost in their own pain. By then, one can not stand up and face their own fears of the unknown and protect themselves or their family, cause their will power has been depleted.

If you are suffering from abuse and think you are alone...you are not! So seek out that help and get your own power back. If you are with children and suffering from abuse, do not make excuses that you can not get help or leave cause you have children with that person... cause in the long run that child will suffer just as much as you and what you are going through and therefore will have a greater chance growing up and becoming a statistic, as well.

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