by Laura Leigh Fields

Created on: January 30, 2007   Last Updated: May 02, 2007

I pull my chair up closer to the computer screen. I let my hair down, and turn on some rock music. This is a topic I can really pour myself into.
I have been the older woman on more than one occasion. The adventure of being with a younger man is far better than words can describe. They are so eager to learn. They want to be nurtured, to be taught. Perhaps, for some, even a mother figure of sorts. Older women seem more settled down, in some cases even "sugar mamas". They worship the ground you walk on. They want to spend the rest of their lives catering unto you...they are so young and impressionable.

A few years ago, I had a brief fling with this younger guy (for anonimity purposes, we will call him "Markie") Markie worshiped the ground I walked on, and at the time I was in a relationship with someone else, living with him actually. I felt guilty about it, as I should have, and should have been dumped by both of them, but Markie knew about the man I lived with and said that he didn't care that he had to share me with someone else for the rest of his life just as long as he got to be with me, too. For me, that was the creepiest thing I had ever heard, two months into what was mostly a sexual escapade. We would spend hours locked in his room, this guy really had stamina, but outside of that there was nothing and so I walked away. For quiet some time after that, I would call him up in the middle of the night, drunk or whatever and he would come right over.
I have thought and rethought about this over the years. I feel bad for all that has happened. I have never claimed to be perfect, but because of my expieriences I feel more confident in my opinions...In general I think most men who like older women may be in the same boat as Markie.
*Self esteem problems, they may desire to be needed and wanted so badly that they are willing to do whatever.
*They want to be nurtured, they like to cuddle, and spend hours locked in the bedroom.
*They want to be a part of something that seems stable. Older women are often career minded and settled down.
*They like to learn things. Older women tend to be better teachers. They are often times more dominant and more willing to take the reigns. They may have more expierience.
*Older women know how to treat a man. They have been around the block, they know what's up. No reason to pretend.
I believe love sees no limits, or no age. Older men are also attracted to younger women. It doesn't matter, if that's what you want and it is for the right reasons. be with someone because that's what you feel in your heart, not because it is your fantasy to score with an older chick.

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