11 of 49

Write now Article Tools

Fear is a debilitating emotion as it stands in the way of our happiness. It has the capacity to keep us single and unattached for the rest of our lives. Fear if given the opportunity to flourish has the potential to deprive us from becoming the most loving person that we can be. Fear is usually a result of negative and hurtful experiences from our past.

It is true that some of us never received love and care when we were little while others witnessed family violence as little children. Thus, a number of people never had a chance to find out what love is all about, how to receive it and give it in return. Sometimes, a person may be skeptical and fearful to open his or her heart to love if he or she already been hurt in the previous relationships. Still, fear and suspicion is not good enough reason to keep us single.

We are afraid to love out of fear that our love will not be returned. Thus, some of us may decide to live alone filled with insecurities and questions leaving us feeling hopeless and sad. Partly, it is normal that we take care of ourselves by protecting our heart and our emotions from being hurt again. It is good to have such self-defense mechanism in place as they best help us protect ourselves from unhealthy relationships. However, we should not sacrifice our happiness just because we had a negative love experience from our past.

Learn the art of forgiveness and simply move on as it is not healthy for you to dwell on your hurt and fears forever. We should not let fear become our master and encourage us to never take risks again. It is always better to love and to loose than to never love at all. Love is all about confronting your fears and growing as a result.

When confronted with fear, we should always ask ourselves the following question "what is the worst thing that can happen to us if we confronted our fear?" We do not have reserve lives but only this one. So, why not make the best of it? If we try, we always have an equal chance of winning. If we do not even try, what chance do we have at winning love? It is up to us to decide whether we will embrace fear or true love in our life.

Learn more about this author, Amela Piric.
Click here to send this author comments or questions.

Add your voice

Know something about Is fear keeping you single??
We want to hear your view. Write now!