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Many have different beliefs about what age a child should be informed they are adopted. Each case must be dealt with on an individual basis. Each child is different. It honestly should depend on the circumstances. I was adopted when I was six years old. I knew I was going to be adopted before the adoption became legal. There are many children with my same situation.

There are more, however, that are placed for adoption before birth or shortly after. For children this young, it is the responsibility of the adoptive parents to decide what option is best for there family. In many cases parents and adoptive parents choose to have there adoption to be an "Open Adoption". In this case, the biological parents are involved in the child's life from the beginning of the adoption and the child knows that they are adopted from the beginning. This may not but ideal for all. However, many families have decided this option to be optimal for their individual setting.

Some adoptive parents choose not to inform their child about their adoption until they are older. Some cases this is the most positive route. The child has mature and if the relationship is a good one with the adoptive parents usually, the loving bond is unbreakable. The child can deal with the realization of adoption in a safe setting surrounded by the ones that have raised them.

Telling your child at the age of 18 about their adoption is an approach that some find questionable. Nevertheless, some find it the correct time to inform the child. AT the age of eighteen, all adopted children legally have access to their sealed adoption records. Any adopted child can obtain these records by contacted their state capitol. It is where all adoption records are sent once they are finalized.

The most important aspect is that you find the correct waty to inform your child about their identity in a safe and moral setting. For a child to find out that they are adopted on their own can have damaging and psychological effects. To find out your reality is not in fact your true beginning can damage the relationship the child has with the parents that have raised them. By not telling them, you can only imagine the feelings the adoptive child will be facing. No matter how you tell you child, it is important that they hear it from you.

Teaching a child that honesty and love can conquer all is the most valuable lesson any parent can teach their children, adopted or not.

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