by Housemom

Created on: April 15, 2009

Usually when you hear about a mother and daughter relationship, you think how nice it is. Well not all mother and daughter relationships are nice. I have been trying for years to make my relationship with my mother nice. So far I have failed. At times it seemed that we did have one until she would stab me in the back. I have come to realize that she only wanted me around so I could do things for her. I know she loves me that is not the question. The question that has never been answered for me is why does she love me? Does she love me because I'm her daughter? Does she love me for all the things I have done for her? Or does she love me because she knows that she can use and deceive me all the time? I have tried to have a heart to heart with her and we always end up in a fight. If I upset her I become the bad daughter and my sister becomes the good daughter. When my sister upsets her it goes the other way. It has happened for years and it is happening now. I am thirty years old now and she is still doing these things. For the first time in my life I have realized that I don't need to impress her or be her everything. I don't have to put up with all the bull that she dishes out everyday. I can be my own person and not run to her every time she is in need. She is an adult and she needs to act like it. I'm not saying this to run her down, I'm just pointing out that I have been stupid to fall for her bull every time. Right now she has pushed me to the limit. I wrote her a letter letting her know how I feel and that I don't want to deal with her drama anymore. I told her that ever since she came into my life I have tried and tried to make her happy, but no matter what I do it never seems to work. I'm tired of trying. My mother is a good person just not to her own children. She is still involved in her grand-children's life but she knows that is all. Sometimes a relationship between a daughter and mother can work, but in my case ......... that will never happen. It is too bad that it can't but a person can only take so much. I believe that it could work if both parties didn't judge each other, if they loved each other for who they are, if they are there for the other no matter what, and they both could communicate to each other without getting into an argument. I am truly sorry that I can't have that, but I will make sure that my children will have a good mother/child relationship. I don't want them to feel the way that I do for my mother and father. Mothers are suppose to be the one you look up to and learn from. I want my children to learn that family is important and that their mom is always going to be there for them no matter what. I really hope that you have the good mother/daughter relationship, but if you don't I'm sorry. God bless you and all that you do.

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