by Dr S Guru

Created on: April 15, 2009   Last Updated: April 30, 2009

Can u say I love you too much

Je t'adore, Te amo and I love you are three ways of expressing ones feelings to the opposite sex and of course these words can be said too much. They can be said so much in fact that they can be rendered quite useless and lose all their meaning especially when a partner/spouses actions are contradictory. Take any word for example and repeat it over and over either in your head or speak it out loud and it will become senseless and start to seem a little strange and meaningless. The same can be said of the words I love you,' said over and over again those words lose substance.

There is nothing worse than having a lover, partner, boyfriend or husband that has always told you he loves you, he's spoken those words enough times for you to feel really secure in the fact that you are the one and only' constant in his life, the person he loves more than anything else in the world 'Because he said so' and then finding out he is having an affair on you. Some men and even women can say I love you in the morning and be in bed with your best friend by the afternoon.

Upon finding out about the infidelity what goes through your mind amidst the shame, rage, fear and agony? 'Did he tell her he loved her too?' And when questioning your partner, if he is extremely remorseful and he tells you that he never loved her like he loved you does that change things a little even though you may still be angry and boiling with rage? I think it does, that little morsel of kindness coming in the form of the words 'I Love you' seems to make it all a bit better, those words seem to smooth things over a little, they put a tiny bandaid on the hole in your heart. 'Well, he said he loved me more...he said he didn't even really like her.'

Is it possible the words 'I love you' can cloud ones vision sometimes and make one see no sense where good sense should prevail? I've seen it happen far too many times and I'm sure you have too. Your friend calls you up and says "I love you" he said, and then he left me, he emailed me to say it was over. He said "I love you for getting me that set of golf clubs, your the best" and then he went and started having an affair with the lady behind the bar at the Golf Club.

Many other languages from cultures around the world have different meanings and different words to infer love, the word love used for a partner, lover, husband is different from the word love used for a brother, sister, mother, father. If our culture could make up a different word to infer love which meant 'I do really like you a lot, in fact I think I might even love you but I'm not above crushing your hopes and dreams.' I think this word would get used a lot more often in exchange for the Love in 'I Love You' and everyone would benefit from the fact that their eyes would be wide open to the other persons intentions and would not be so duped by those three little words that mean so much.

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