by Juliannah Jamarin

Created on: April 14, 2009

Sex is just one of the glues that help hold a marriage together. It helps a couple continue to bond together over the years. Most couples with a long-lasting marriage will tell you that sex plays a big part in the relationship. Sex helps build the love couples feel for each other over the years.

Newlyweds usually start out having a lot of sex. For most, the new relationship is exciting and most newlyweds are alone together at the beginning of their marriage. Most are young and full of energy so having a lot of sex just comes natural. For those that wait until marriage to have sex, the newness, and thrill of sex can be heighten even more.

Once couples start to have children, demands on time and increased responsibility may take a toll on couples having as much sex as they did before they kids arrived. As every new mom can attest, sleep becomes a commodity and being tired is not always conducive to having sex. Even though, couples should still try to keep up with their sex life and not let it fall by the wayside. Sex can actually help revitalize couples thus making coping with the demands of children and life in general a little easier to deal with.

Some couples have committed to have "sex everyday." This does not necessarily mean actual intercourse everyday but rather a little foreplay every morning, night or whenever time permits. Simply making out for a few minutes helps spark feelings of well being and love. Taking time out each day for each other further continues commitment to the marriage and each other.

When the children grow up and leave the opportunity for more sex presents itself much like the early honeymoon period in the beginning of the marriage. Now couples have more time for each other and should take advantage of that time. Growing older does not mean that sex should decrease. Couples in good health can and do have active sex lives. By this point in the marriage, most couples know each other pretty well and sex can continue to blossom and keep getting better and better.

Sex can actually improve the health of married couples. Orgasms release hormones and endorphins that promote a feeling of well being which helps alleviate stress and ward off depression. Having a good sex life can lessen the chances of heart attacks, strokes and even reduce the risk of prostate cancer. The added benefit of burning extra calories is helpful too. Sex keeps couples feeling young and happy.

Mutual respect, good communication and treating each other kindly are all important in a marriage but an active and frequent sex life can be the "icing on the cake." Most couples will find that keeping sex alive throughout a marriage helps keep the love, commitment and excitement in a marriage.

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