by Amela Piric

Created on: April 14, 2009   Last Updated: June 18, 2010

Insecurity is a number one killer for our relationships.  Insecurity is detrimental for our relationships as it causes resentment in a relationship which further undermines the very fabric of a relationship.  Once accumulated, insecurity can lead to fights and conflicts within a relationship that can eventually destroy it.  If the terrain is not rich with esteem, the relationship will not have a chance to flourish. Thus, it is destined to vanish slowly but surely.

Insecurity usually originates from fear, low self-esteem and/or lack of financial stability.  Insecurity manifests itself through fear of commitment, jealousy, and uncertainty.  People who are insecure are more likely to interpret their partners' actions in a negative way.  Insecure persons always look for somebody to blame when things go wrong.  They have a tendency to blame their partner for everything that goes wrong in the relationship instead of taking the time to share their insecurities with a partner before they escalate into a problem.

We have all felt insecure at some or other point in our lives.  In fact, the world is filled with insecurity.  But, it is one thing to feel insecure and quite another one to act on it.  Insecure individuals do not even realize the detrimental impact that their actions can have on their relationships.  In many instances, acting on our insecurity can grow resentment towards our partner and eventually lead to fighting. 

Thus, unresolved feelings of insecurity can be very destructive for relationships as they usually create an unhealthy environment that eventually escalates into fierce verbal fights and eventually even physical violence in certain cases.  We all know of couples who constantly fight each other in front of friends and family.  Whether they know it or not, they give impressions of very insecure people.

If you want to avoid insecurity in your relationships, then work on building up your self-esteem.   Building up your self-esteem can help you alleviate feelings of insecurity that may be present in your relationships.  It can further help your achieve emotional intimacy with your partner that is crucial for the success and quality of our relationships. 

Your relationship should be all about building intimacy and peace in your life as it is your only corner of privacy in today's world full of fears and insecurity.  Nurture your relationship by being honest and open with your partner.  By openly sharing your personal fears, dreams, and hopes in an atmosphere free of judgment and ridicule, you will eliminate personal insecurities and resentment from your relationships. Thus, you will be on the road towards achieving quality and long-lasting relationships.

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