by Wonda Waide

Created on: April 13, 2009

The real question is why a person is not gone after being cheated on. We so many times forgive a person for there mistakes and say it's because we love them. The truth is we do not leave when we are cheated on because of an underling reason we do not want to admit to others or our self.
A person should never stay with someone who cheated no matter what is not the affair itself but the things a person will go through because of the affair. That person will seem fine and they kissed and made up but the next day soon as they leave the house the wondering is he or she cheating? Why are they gone so long? Who are they with? Calling non-stop. Worrying, wandering, accusing, fighting, pushing and then the result is you let the other person gain control and will cheat and you will be there.

The affair itself is not as easy to get over as moving on from a loved on. Time heals all wounds and being able to move past and find another person to share your feelings with becomes a lot easier. The things your own mind will do to you when you stay with a cheater are far worse. So never, stay with a cheater. Gain self-respect and not settle for anything especially a cheater. If you think they will not cheat on you then you are living in a self-destructive world that will spin and spin. No one deserves to be hurt or pulled under for another's actions.
The only way a cheater is ever forgivable is someone who goes out, gets real psychological help, and realizes what they have done and say they are a cheater. A real person who is forgivable is someone who takes real steps to make sure they do not loose you or cheat and that they work to get you back. No sorry works. Actions speak louder than words and should never have to tell a person how to keep you or get you back. Love will show them the way. Your mind and self-respect will go out the window if you ever forgive a cheater. A cheater is not just a liar but also much worse. All adults know that cheating will hurt badly and to go out and do it anyways shows no respect for you.
Always get out never forgive be strong as bad as it hurts and no matter what never let them back in your life no matter how many years because it only breaks you down as a person and never let another person break your beauty within. Cheaters do not care they want to eat and have their cake to and by letting them have it only makes them inferior to you. Get the strength and never let anyone hurt you.

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