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The only problem with babies is right from birth they become the boss and within the first year you need to make a decision are they to stay the boss or not. When they are new borns, they cry only for the reasons of hunger, diaper or clothes changing. Then they get to the point where they notice when they cry you come running. When they notice that is when you should think, will you let them stay being the boss or be a parent and start them on a schedule instead of letting them be the boss?

I had two children by the time I brought my third baby home which was my husband's first child and I was in a fight with him trying to get her to be on a schedule but it killed him and he would just wait and pick her up and stay up all hours of the night. I would go to sleep to tired to fight with him about it but then he had to go to work and would want me to keep her up so he could sleep and I new what had to be done that I had to be the boss not the baby. He would get up with her because he could not stand her to cry and it was heart renching for me to but I new the result was for her best and the best for my sleep. Every cry was like someone stabbing me in my ear but I been through it with my other children and it was easier for me with my other two. Because I was, a single mother and I never had to listen to the scream as if I did with this child because I did have a man taking the child out of bed and staying up with them.
It was an on going fight I was loosing the battle with my husband. My baby was winning and she is precious of course but I was tired all the time and tired of seeing her father tired because people leave guilt when there tired.
Therefore, I moved her out of my room and in her own with lights and she is eight months today and sleeping through the night. It took taking her out of my room which I did not want as a mother I want my kids their first year within my room but I could not take it anymore with my husband he was driving me more crazy.
He thought I was being heartless to let her cry I was of course im a mother and I thought if she cried to long she would get insecure so I went online to find out if she would and found that to be not true. Soon as I had that reassurance, I was making her my baby and her to stop being my boss with making my husband listen to her cry but staying awake to keep him from her and she is a great sleeper now. I know as long as she is comfortable with all her needs met she is fine of course teething cuts into all that because their in pain. However, if I did not take control she would still be sleeping all day and up at night until 5 am. Believe me this was the hardest because it was not me fighting all my feelings of guilt and the what if's I had a man I had to fight with also which caused a strain on my whole situation but AI stayed strong and held my ground and everyone is much happier now.

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