by Docsynic

Created on: April 12, 2009

My advice would be to let it go.

Parents do not treat all their children the same. And whether they like to admit it or not, they do have favorites. It might also be wise to consider the circumstance.

For example: if a thirty year old woman, who has finished college, is successfully employed, and owns her own home, finally meets the man of her dreams, should her parents pay for her wedding? This context is in contrast to a twenty-something female who is still in college and is struggling to make ends meet.

If it were me, I would pay for my child's wedding if, and only if, they were incapable of doing so. But that holds true for all of my children in many different areas of their lives.

If one of my children were to buy a home, and had a difficult time pulling together the down payment, I would help as best as I could. If another one of my children needed a vehicle, but could not afford one, I might help them out. Then, if a child of mine were to get married and could not afford a decent wedding, it would behoove me to help them out, as I did the other two. But it is not my responsibility to help each and every one of my children out of every situation that comes their way.

If your parents did not pay for your wedding, and it truly bothers you, there is no reason why you cannot ask why. Sure they might be offended, as I might be. But they might also understand that you are ignorant to their reasons. I would explain, even if I was annoyed by a child that sounded like an ingrate. After all, we are still their parents no matter how old they are, and if they have a lack of understanding in some area, it would be well of us to explain.

In all honesty, what do you do? It would be immature to cry, pout, and moan, because you were not treated the same as another child. It would be useless to dwell.

It has been the standard for many years that father's pay for their daughter's weddings. But times have changed. Women are not longer expected to stay home and raise children. This is a different era. If women expect to have equal pay and expect to be seen as equals, then they should not expect special treatment.

So my advice?

Deal with it. Get over it. Get on with your life. Why should you expect anyone else to pay for anything of yours except yourself? If you are old enough to get married, then you are old enough to pay for your own wedding -or anything else for that matter.

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