by Stefanie Tomlin

Created on: January 29, 2007   Last Updated: May 03, 2007

My husband and I have been married for about a year and a half, and considering the short length of time that we have been married, we really don't have the infamous "communication thing" down pat. However, we do know how to argue. As a matter of fact, I believe we have successfully and effortlessly turned arguing into an art. To be quite blunt, we argue over nothing, as I am sure all newlyweds are accustomed to do. Something as simple as taking the dog outside often results in an argument. I am sure that most of you who are reading this article have now determined that my marriage is doomed and we should both see a lawyer first thing in the morning if we resort to fighting over a small 4 lb. dog. And I will admit, at times I find myself thinking and almost acting on that very same thought, but I somehow manage to stop the racing and impulsive thoughts in my mind and continue arguing away. My husband is the type of man who believes that he is consistently right regardless of the fact that he is most of the time wrong. He would argue with oncoming traffic, believing that if he yelled enough that all cars, trucks, SUV's and tractor trailors would eventually stop just because he told them to. I think it is sort of ironic that I chose to base my article on communication considering I don't know how to communicate with my husband without yelling. ( I know, I know, that divorce lawyer is awaiting my call.) But it's the truth. My question is, is there really any successful way to communicate? Sure, Lifetime movies always demonstrate successfull communication techniques between those beautifully, flawless couples who live in hilltop mansions and have an unusually healthy sex life, but they also show the mad housewives who can't take the insanity anymore and eventually the arguing husband ends up at the bottom of the river somewhere out West. What I'm trying to say is, we hear all of those different means of communication and how there is only one really effective way to communicate with our spouse, when in reality, we've all tried that "one way" and it has yet to place all of us in that hilltop mansion with a steamy sex life. I suppose the only thing I can do, is continue to argue with my beloved husband, think of outstanding comebacks, and prepare myself for the amazing make up sex that we will have afterwards. Unless he's sleeping on the couch.

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