by J.K Citrus

Created on: April 11, 2009

Nothing can beat love. Love is the fluttering of butterflies in your stomache when you see each other. It is caring for your partner so much that you would sacrifice yourself for them. Love is standing up for your partner regardless of if they wrong or right. Love is not having no arguments, but having the ability to look deeper into them and solve the disagreements that you do have. Love is many things, but above all, it is the strong desire and ache to spend your life with that person.

Now that said, of course love marriages would be stronger, but I can easily see how people would say arranged last longer; especially with the divorce rates as high as they are in today's world. That is because many of the marriages are not based on love today. So I think that this question should specify what love marriages actually are. Many people assume that a marriage has to be a love marriage if it is not arranged. Now, back in the day this would be true for the most part, but today, not so much. People get into marriage too quickly, and don't give themselves enough time to realize if they actually love their partner. Marriages are not based on love as much as lust and "crushes". Also, couples are influenced by the high divorce rates. This means that as soon as they get into a problem, they grow away from each other and don't try hard enough to solve it because they feel that divorce is okay. If so many couples are divorces, then what's wrong with me getting a divorce? Nothing if you already tried any way possible of saving your marriage. But many people don't try hard enough. If they can so easily move on from their spouse, can it be true that they actually had love going on in the first place? That's a question that stays unanswered.

Arranged marriages may develop into love marriages, but that's not a certainty. However, if the couple had an arranged marriage, and didn't really have their say in who they would be marrying, they are more likely to stay together because if it wasn't their choice to get married to each other, would it still be their choice to quickly get seperated? It's a tough question, and I don't really know that much about arranged marriages, so I don't want to judge that.

Although there may be some pattern in which marriages last longer, I think that it totally depends on the couple and their personalities and how well they fit together. I have known couples that had an arranged marriage that have grown so close, that they may have more love than a couple that started out with just love. But I have also witnessed couples get married with love and keep that same love harboured in their hearts until the end of their lives. So although I said love, I really think that it is different from couple to couple. As long as there is love in the relationship, it doesn't matter how it started out.

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