by Beverly Cook

Created on: April 11, 2009   Last Updated: April 13, 2009

Love should be like a tree that bends in the wind. It can be bent and still be intact. If the branches start to break off then love is beginning to become lost and has a possibility of being shattered. Love has to be worked on all the time. It needs to be fed on a regular basis. If it is not fed, it is as something live, it dies. Love, if it true love will die slowly over a period of time. If true love hasn't had time to develop, it won't take as long for the love to disappear.

We need to listen to our partner, not just hear. Not only the voice, but the body language as well. They may be trying to tell us there is a problem other than the one they are talking about at the time. Communication is so important in any relationship. If you know you can go to the one you love and they will listen to you without judgement then you can feel that no matter what you can get through anything! If you can't do this, then communication becomes nonexistent as time goes by. Branches fall off the tree. If there is no communication, then the things you had or thought you had in common in the beginning of the relationship are no longer there and you began to grow apart. The longer that communication stops flowing the less you have in common with the partner.

You have to take your partner for them, not what you think they should be or what you want them to be. You can't have different standards for you and your partner. Be careful as to what standards you set. You can't be you and expect the partner to do all the changing. It definitely won't work. Both of you have to change in order for the love to grow. Love is ever changing and so should you be in order to keep the love alive. One partner can't evolve without the other and keep the love fed.

Remember, you are a team! There is no I in team. There has to be give and take in each partnership. One can't do all the giving and one do all the taking. When this happens, there is a control issue that begins to take place. The I becomes prevalent. I needed you where were you? I needed to know where you were in case I needed you. Who did you talk to? What did you talk about? You don't talk to me? and so on the circle goes. A branch falls off the tree.

In each relationship there is a certain amount of baggage. We all have it. In today's society with almost fifty percent of the marriages ending in divorce, there is more baggage than ever. As sad as it is to say it, children and ex-spouses are baggage that has to be dealt with. If you are going

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