by Arithan

Created on: April 10, 2009

I have always felt that relationships would be better if they started off as friends first. It would be a good foundation to start with because they already like each other for who they are. They know each other's likes and dislikes. They already enjoy each other's company, and depending on how close the friendship is, they feel that they can really talk to each other about anything. The new and exciting feeling people get when they meet someone they are interested in is nice, but when you learn something about them that you just can't live with, you just wasted your time. It would be better to just seek friendship first and if it doesn't work out, you still have that friendship. I realize that many people feel that if you start off as friends, you risk losing it when one person doesn't feel the same way as the other. I feel that if they are a true friend in the first place, they would understand and want to keep that friendship. There might be awkward moments at first, but eventually, they would both understand and just want to keep the friendship.

The first time I really wanted a serious relationship was around my junior year in high school. I was at a social with my church group and one of my friend's friend and his girlfriend walked in. I immediately thought she was one of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen. Since she was already with someone, I just left it at that. After a short time, they broke up. When I learned about this I tried to get to know her better. We became friends and felt comfortable around each other. One day she asked me if I had feelings for her. I told her I do and she told me she was flattered, but she just wants to be friends. Shortly after, she revealed information to me which made me feel like hating them for life. She told me she was secretly seeing one of my best friends and that he had already told her that I had feelings for her. He even told her to watch out for me because he didn't want her to get too close to me so that he can be that person. I ended up hating them for a while, but with time that went away and I forgave them. While she was with him, we actually became good friends. We felt like we could talk to each other about anything. She would come to me for comfort when he wasn't treating her the way she wanted and telling me things like how I'm so much better than he is. She wanted my qualities to replace his. This has actually happened several times with a few different couples. It made me feel like the good guy

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