by Terry Marsh

Created on: April 09, 2009

The gentle touch of strong hands can be reassuring in times of doubt and indecision. A loving smile framed by eyes that peer into one's soul, warms the heart and evokes feelings of passion and sincere longing. The closeness of a caring caress, followed by a soft kiss, can express emotions better than any words imaginable.

The power of non-verbal communication is often taken for granted in the context of relationships. People spend so much time making their point, that they too often miss the point that relationships require nurturing to enhance emotional development. Verbally expressing thoughts and feelings is an important part of communicating in a relationship, but there are times when unspoken actions speak much louder than any words.

Where words and phrases imply intent, the dynamics of non-verbal communication engages an action. It can often express what words cannot, and communicates when words are inappropriate. It is a more sincere showing of how one feels, when the validity of one's verbal commitments are in question. It can promote heath and healing in a relationship, when words may have added to an affliction.

Participation in the process of communication involves two or more individuals committed to the exchange of thoughts and ideas relevant to an issue. Sometimes, during the course of a relationship, words can become more of a hindrance than a help in such an exchange, leading relationship partners through an exhaustive search towards an equitable compromise. At such times, a touch or caress can express much more than words ever could.

Relationships go through phases, and can often become routine. The words "I love you" can sometimes feel empty without being accompanied by a kiss. Caring can become a void concept without the outward sharing of some physical interaction. The right words can aptly express how one feels, but an expression of affection through the use of non-verbal communication shows how one feels. At times, it could be as simple as holding hands.

But non-verbal expression can also have the opposite effect on a relationship. When verbal altercations escalate to include physical interaction, the results can lead to abuse or bodily harm. Of course, this is the ultimate extreme in any relationship, and displays an inability to communicate effectively, or any desire to compromise. Successful relationships cannot exist under such circumstances.

However, when two individuals strive towards a harmonious involvement, non-verbal interactions will comfort, console, confirm, and create an environment that screams of love and understanding. It could also lead to a level of passion that words could never express.

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