by Melissa Jerez

Created on: April 07, 2009

One of the most frequently asked questions that receive all different kinds of answers is the aged-old question: "What do women really want in a man?". With all the different answers, it's easy to see how men can find themselves confused and right where they started. In truth, you can't really know what a woman wants in a man, until you get to know her. Every woman is different, just how every man is different. One woman might prefer a man with a sense of humor, while another woman might prefer a man who's much more serious. Some women prefer a man who lives dangerously, while some prefer the not-so dangerous. The truth is, that there is something every woman desires in a man, and that is: a partner.

We want a man who will not only support us, but look at us straight in the face and show us our flaws. There are some men who will read this and mutter, "lies" but it's true! We have a bad rep for being "crazy" just because our man was honest with us. The truth is, honesty is the best policy and it's the only way to ever improve ourselves. We, as women, need to break that "crazy" label and look at our flaws! However, there is a difference between honesty, and being a jerk. If you're honest, we might fight, but at least we'll listen. If you're a jerk, then we won't listen and then there'll be an argument.

I say we want a partner in the sense that we want someone who will be there for us. A man who will try to remember what we like and how we like it, instead of just guessing or not bothering to try to know us. A man who will attempt to make us smile everyday and make us feel good about ourselves, instead of feeling insecure. A man who will understand us when he listens, and try not to make judgements so quickly. A man who is empathetic to our problems, and try to get why we feel upset about certain things even if he may not understand why. All these traits are what women want in a man. In a world where men and women are divided because of certain stereotypes, it's hard to try and find a man who will at least try to be a partner in a relationship. Some women do want to change men, but many others don't. We just want to find someone who is willing to listen, without being freaked out. Also, women need to be more understanding about how men think. It can't just be a one-way street, it has to go both ends.

If more people were opened to that idea, and willing to listen, then that stereotype of women being "crazy" and "freaking out" would cease to exist.

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