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Dealing with the past can be a lifelong journey. It can be as complex as seeking the help of professionals or as easy as telling someone you are sorry. Sometimes it dredges up more issues that do more harm, other times it closes an issue for good. One thing issues from the past have in common is that they don't resolve themselves and it doesn't happen over night.

What are your issues? Is there some moment in time you keep playing over in your head. What about that time bothers you? What is the issue with that time? If you have ever watched the television show, My name is Earl, you know about his list. It is a list of wrong doings that he is trying to make up for. Making a list is a good place to start. Include things you want to tell others, things you need others to explain or clarify, things you want to do, people to apologize to, people to confront. Make it an all encompassing list of things from the past that you need to deal with.

If the issues are huge, like abuse, neglect, or criminal, you really may need to seek professional help. Talk to a counselor or therapist. Some things are just to big to deal with alone. Confronting someone who was abusive could be dangerous. That person may not even understand the depth of what they did. This type of issue may just mean you have to deal with it on your own with a professional. You will have to come to terms with it on your own, realizing you did nothing wrong. You will have to find away to bury the issue for good and move on.

Smaller issues should be scattered all through your list. These will be the easiest to cross off and seeing them crossed off will keep you motivated. Did you say something mean to a parent? Write a letter of heartfelt apology and present it in person. Once the you've mended that fence, cross it off the list. Did your sibling hurt your feelings by forgetting an important event? Visit them, mention the event, explain the pain, mend the fence, cross it off the list.

Like I said earlier, not all issues from our past are easy to deal with or cut and dry. The imperative act here is to just start facing the issues one at a time. Take what victories you can and learn to deal with issues that cannot be completely resolved. Get started now. Even if it's late at night, you can at least start your list. One last thing, always in all issues remain calm, patient and sincere. Eventually, dealing with the past will be a thing of the past.

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