by ShortyGU12

Created on: April 05, 2009

This definitely hits home for me. The word "judgement" is the entirely wrong word to use because why would someone judge someone else?

People who are parents need to understand the fact that their kid(s) are people - individualistic with their own thoughts, being their own person.

I come from a very different background that not a lot of people can say - I have a Japanese mother and a father who grew up in West Virginia. My mom was born in 1944 and my dad was 1950. Imagine their household - mom's distaste for showing any emotion other than anger and my father's both parents being complete racists even up to their dying breath.

My parents most definitely taught my sister and I to be courteous and mature (even for our young age). My parents both never forced religion into our lives, they decided that it's up to us to decide what to believe in. They taught us to respect people around us - including strangers.

It's life and the experiences that tell us what is "right" and "wrong". Parents can only tell their children to be respectful and courteous. The rest is up to them to allow to click into place; you can't force someone to be someone they are not. People writing about forcing scripture down kids throats is horrible and there's a phrase for that: Hitler in the Heart.

Parents make boundaries for their child/ren to follow such as come home at a certain time, call home, do their homework, and so on. My mom told me one thing about school: It was my job and that's all she had to say because I knew that meant I had to be professional and not take things personally; anything personal going on at home stayed at home.

Contemplating the way that my parents grew up to the way that my sister and I grew up are different because of time. The things that don't change is to comply with the law, be respectul, and courteous.

I'm married to an Englishman now, living in England and even though America and England are seen as quite similar, it's quite different as well. Even when my husband's mother was a teenager, it sounds as though life as far as rules by her parents weren't strict and that she could do what she pleased as long as it was reasonable.

My husband and his mother's view on illicit drugs are different from my family. Anyone who uses drugs in my family's eyes are degenerates and are automatically cut out of the family because it's extremely selfish for someone to use drugs, to ruin their health on purpose and to break the law; it's disrespectful and shameful. However, on my

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