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Men, by nature, are the agressors in most situations. Women tend to be more submissive because society, the media, the whole world makes her believe that is what she should do. There are many women out there who have never even broke free from the missionary posistion. As women, we often feel that we are just suppossed to follow the lead. If we initiate then it is us that is in the wrong? No..but it goes back to the age old thing. "If a man beds alot of ladys, he is in many circles to be considered a stud. If a lady beds alot of men, she is not the marrying type, to the say very least.

Are those views right? In my opinion, no. Women should have the same rights in all aspects. If a woman wants to try a new posistion, or say what she wants to do, then that should be okay. Women also tend to be more self concious.We don't want to have sex with the lights on. We don't want to look bad in bed, We don't want to make faces, We don't want to be awkward, so we restain ourselves. We don't always go to the next level. I was in my mid twenties before I expirienced my first real orgasm, I was so self concious that I would just let him get his and walk away. Alot of women are like that. Below is a list of suggestions that might help you break loose from the monotony, work on that self esteem, and spice things up..
* Let your man pick out something sexy for you to wear. That helps break the ice. You know you are modeling something he really wants to see you in.
* Meditate. Clear your mind. If you are stressed out or angry, then the modd can be effected tremendously. Breathe Deep. Remember..no pressure. Have fun.
* Write some positions or things that you might want to try down on small sheets of paper, let your mate help, then "draw from the hat". A fun game sometimes relaxes people.
* Don't expect to be Donna Dominitrex in 20 minutes. Don't get disappointed if you do get nervous, or chicken out. There is always next time.
* Try dirty talk, or begin slow, incorporate pet names, and if nessecarry safety words before hand.
* There are many sex ed books that you can read, Dr. Ruth, Dr. Sue Johanssen, the karma sutra.. and many shows to watch, there is a whole world of opportunities out there, and lack of education or knowledge should be the least of anyone's concerns. Be careful, and good louck

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