by Housemom

Created on: April 02, 2009   Last Updated: April 06, 2009

When you enter a relationship, you know what you want. I knew that once I got into a relationship with my partner that I wanted to feel loved, trusted, and respected. I also wanted him to be a family man, passionate, romantic, honest, loving, and open minded. I also thought he would live close to me so I could see him whenever. Well I met the man that was great for me. The only thing that got to me was I lived in New York and he lived in Connecticut. I was not sure if this was going to work out or not.

At first it was exciting, we got to see each other on the weekends and call each other during the week. When we started to get closer emotionally and physically, it got harder to deal with the long distance relationship. We both got a little more anxious to see each other but we knew neither of us could keep affording to travel. We started to talk more and more over the phone. That helped for awhile but I was itching to see him. I know he was feeling the same way. I decided to go to Connecticut to see him.

He came to New York and brought me to Connecticut. It was great visiting him but I had to go back to New York to my children. He knew that and understood. For awhile I kept going to see him and he was coming to see me. It was working but it was hard on our wallets. We both decided that we had to sit down and find a solution to our problem. Our problem is how are we going to see each other more and not neglect our children, family, and friends. We both decided to talk to our family and children to see if they had any ideas. My family thought that I was wrong for going to Connecticut to see him. My children said it was a good thing for me to go once in awhile. His family thought it was nice that I came up to visit and his children love seeing me as much as they can. Now we are in a bind.

My family says it is wrong for me to go and visit and they are good at making me feel guilty but on the other hand my partner says that they are just upset because we are happy. My friends even tell me that I should not go out of state to see him. Well after all of the conversations and guilt trips, we have decided that the only opinions that count are our children's. Yes it is hard not seeing each other but it is worth the wait. My love is moving to New York. I believe if you are serious and you love your partner, then you will wait. I know that waiting is very very hard, but when I do see him it is so exciting and fresh. I think being apart makes us closer.

Call me crazy but as of now even though we are so far apart, we are closer than we ever have been. We keep in touch over the Internet, mail, and phone. I can't wait to see him and he can't wait to see me. It has been working for us for 8 months now and I believe that we are meant to be. I really hope that my thoughts have helped you in one way or another. God bless and good luck to you and your love.

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