by Bernice Dennis

Created on: April 01, 2009

What a loaded question. First I guess we should be asking what age child or children are we talking about. What type of decision making are we referring too? Do children need to be troubling their young, immature minds with the rent, the grocery, the lack of funds to meet the monthly expenses? What? Therefore I believe those responsibilities should best be handle by the adults of the home.

Therefore, when I am asked should children have a say in decision making. My answer is NO. Those who strongly oppose my decision are probably the younger parents. In many of the homes today parents and children party together and are best buds. Children today are exposed to drugs, sex, violence, and pornography in the home. Then When then little Johnny goes to school and touches a young girl improperly all the adults are upset. Wonder why.

Little girls learn at an early age to imitate mommy and little boys copy dads. Their little minds record enough grown-up business without us adding more. Children should just enjoy being children. A child's mind should be free to run, play, games, parties and school. There will be time enough to take on adult responsibilities.

You must agree with me that most of us mature adults that grew up in fairly decent homes know who made the decisions in the home. Dad thought he always made the decisions but we knew mom's influence was a part of that decision. My parents made the tuff decision together after serious thought and prayer was given to a problem. The problems were never imposed upon the children. Children were even sent out the room when conversations were for grown-ups only.

That is why I stand firmly on NO. Being from the old school I rather enjoyed having my parents in control. Take it from me we did not grow up under a democratic process. It was more like a dictatorship in our home-if you know what I mean. After the decision was made it was my dad who would go forward with the decision. Having said that please, hear me out just for a moment. There were respect, obedience, and love in that home. There was enough love for seven children. When I was a child I spoke as a child, I behaved as a child. But when I became a grownup I put away childish things. The only decision a child should be involved in or have to decide is: I don't want fries with my burger or whatever is simple.

Our desire to return to our youthful years is understandable. Why? Because we had no responsibility, mom and dad shield us from trouble situations. They did it out of love for us because our minds were too young and tender to understand.(business) There are and will be complications as I see it in involving a child in a decision making process: In mature minds, responsibility or the lack thereof and a lack of control. Young minds will forget where they have this authority and involvement at. Where there is a lack of control in the home teachers and others have a problem with discipline. There is also a chance that a certain amount respect is missing. Children really want parents not pals. They want you to be in charge and say no.

Finally, God made man first. He is to be the head of the family. Now ladies, this is not intended to make you feel in any way less important. You came from man's side to walk beside him as his mate not his servant. Christ validated you when He came. You are that fine piece of precious porcelain and you husband is that rough piece of iron. Both are equal in their worth and value. Children are to obey their parents. COMMANDMENT# 5 Exodus 20: Single moms be the mom and not the buddy, you are in charge.

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