by NFN

Created on: March 30, 2009

You are used to behaving in a particular way in front of your children. To you this may seem normal, as this is how you have always behaved. But have you ever thought or considered how this so called normal behavior of yours is perceived by others whom you may have to interact with.

If you quarrel in front of your children, irrespective of where you are, and even if it is not within the confines of your home, but out in public in a shopping mall, park, or theatre, you are not exactly setting a good example for your children to follow. They would feel that it is quite acceptable if they get angry irrespective of where they are. And if they do so, they could be branded as unruly or ill behaved, all because of the example that you have set for them.

When you are in a disagreement, and you feel that your mate is not correct, refrain from name calling, or even slighting your mate, especially if the children are around. If they hear you doing this, they will feel that they can also say such things to others, maybe even yourself, because they have heard you doing it. Probably at that time you will realize how easily you are influencing your children and need to set them better examples.

Children are very keen listeners, even if they seem engrossed in play, and if you are berating and blaming your companion in their presence, they are almost sure to consider this behavior as normal and will do the same when they are at fault and just play the blame game. So just curb that tongue of yours and make your recriminations when you are really alone, especially if the topic is concerning money and spending habits.

There are times when you feel very disappointed and let down by your mate, because you had such high expectations from them. These frustrations can surface if you feel particularly let down. But see that you do not voice this disappointment in front of the children, as to them each of you is on a pedestal, and they do look up to you.

You have just had an argument and are really annoyed with your companion. The children are in the room, and you voice an opinion about your mate in front of them, even though he has already left the room. This is unfair, even if you feel that you have made the comment in his absence, so that you do not get into a further argument.

Abstain from physically assaulting your mate or throwing things at him or her, just because you are annoyed. If children see this behavior, they are almost certain to repeat it themselves when they are upset.Screaming

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