by Sarah Love

Created on: March 29, 2009

There are a few simple things you can do to help your preschooler understand the idea of sharing.
The problem is, your youngster doesn't want to share, and in fact the concept of sharing is a bit foreign to him. For a toddler with a new toy, their focus is on that item being "mine." Trying to pry it out of his hot little hands to let his friend take a look, or even yourself, can be an overwhelming and daunting experience.

Because many children are egocentric, they haven't gotten to the concept of "sharing" or "giving."
These ideas can be modeled to them, explained to them, and explained to them again, but it takes some practice before it really sinks in. Until they are ready to selflessly share, you will have to practice the fine art of tolerance.Ask your preschoolers' teachers for help in teaching your child to share. If they are attending preschool at this time, use all the help you can to make this a great learning experience. The more people that expose your child to share the better. Your child's teachers are also well versed in dealing with sharing issues. They see it all the time! Take advantage of any other support systems available through your preschool also. If you are aware of other children having sharing issues, set up a support group for the parents and share stories and ideas for helping your child work through the concept of sharing.

It is essential that you are modeling good sharing behavior at all times in front of your child.
If you see your youngster watching you with bright eyes, take some time to show some sharing. Let's say you are using a special item, something that your toddler knows is important to you (cell phone, remote control, a book or magazine) and your child is with you. Ask him if he would like to share the object with you. Let him take a turn with the object all the while making sure to talk him through it. Explain that this is a special object for you and holds an emotional value to you. Tell him that you feel good that he is using and holding the object with respect. Allow your toddler to experiment with the object for a couple minutes without interrupting them. Fight your urges to explain how to use the object to your toddler, allow them to feel they have control of the moment. After a couple minutes, ask for the object back and thank them for sharing so nicely.

Another great way to work on sharing skills is to create a "sharing stick" with your child.
Do the project together so you have a chance to talk about sharing while

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