by Krystle Hernandez

Created on: March 28, 2009   Last Updated: April 25, 2009

Most of us know at least one parent (or set of parents) that can be defined as "wimpy" or "undisciplined." These parents typically do not stand up to the challenges that their children present, and frequently allow their children to push their boundaries to the extreme, ultimately giving in to their children's each and every whim. This kind of parent is often convinced that their children should be allowed to be children, without acknowledging the fact that they are paving the way for their children's future out of control behavior. Often, these kinds of parents are said to engage in what is known as "permissive parenting."

Although most parents have varying styles when it comes to parenting and can differ greatly in their belief systems concerning what is best for their children, it is important for "undisciplined" parents to understand the negative impacts that their permissive parenting could be having on their children.

Consider your motives and beliefs.

As a parent, it is likely that you want what is best for your child. But, while you may want to have a happy and peaceful relationship with your child, keep in mind that it is unrealistic to expect a parent-child relationship to be 100% of conflicts or arguments. Children will inevitably test their parents' boundaries and their own limitations. As a result, they may rebel throughout the course of their childhoods and adolescences. Ask yourself if you really want what is best for your child or if you are more concerned with being the "cool" parent that is considered more of a friend than an authority figure. Of course, parents want to be "friends" with their children, but children have peers for friendships and parents for structure. Your job is to be a parent and parenting should be your number one priority.

Be involved.

Excessively permissive parenting (to some degree) is a cop out. Parents need to be responsible for their children. As a result, you should be sure that you are directly involved in your children's lives. You need to know important aspects about your child's every day life. From who he or she is hanging out with, to what kind of television shows he or she is watching, eventually having a good, healthy bond with your child involves you becoming involved in their lives and having a certain amount of knowledge about their personality, preferences, and behaviors.

Set up boundaries.

You don't have to be a strict or "square" parent, but you SHOULD be setting up enough boundaries for your children to

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