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Relationships are complicated enough when both individuals involved are committed to it. However, it can be extremely painful for some people to deal with developing feelings for another individual who does not feel the same way for them. If you feel that you have found someone that you think is perfect for you, but he or she does not feel the same way, how do should you deal with this unrequited love?

Is it lust or love?

First, it is important that you are honest with yourself about the nature of your feelings. Are you in love, or just in lust? Consider how well you know the object of your affection. If you only barely know him or her, your feelings may be based on physical attraction. Otherwise, your feelings may be based on fictionalized ideas about what you think this person is like. If your feelings are based on idealized versions of what you imagine the person you love to be like, then it is important that you recognize that this person could be vastly different from what you believe they are. In these situations, you can either attempt to develop a closer relationship with the person in an effort to get to know them better, or you can simply understand that you could be spending your time more wisely, getting to know someone who appears to be as "into" you as you are "into" them.

If your feelings for the object of your affection have grown out of a long lasting friendship, but you still feel as though they do not feel the same way, then you have a very difficult choice ahead of you. Either you can accept the fact that the other person does not feel the same way and continue to be friends with him or her; or, you can ultimately decide that if it is too difficult to be "just friends" and go your separate ways.

Why be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?

When you are evaluating your feelings for the person you feel you love, consider why you would want to be with someone who does not want to be with you? Unrequited love may be painful because you feel "rejected" or unwanted, but the reality is that not everyone is going to have romantic feelings for you. Why spend your time trying to gain the attention or affection you desire from a person who does not feel the same way for you, when you could be working on establishing a successful relationship with someone who does feel the same way for you as you do for them?

The important thing is for you to keep in mind that just because an individual does not have the same feelings for you as you do for them does

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