by Krystle Hernandez

Created on: March 28, 2009   Last Updated: December 31, 2011

Pornography has been a lucrative industry for hundreds of centuries. For the most part, pornography offers many benefits not only for individuals, but also for couples. While pornography can certainly be a healthy way to mix things up for couples in the bedroom, it can also become an issue for others. That being said, it is no surprise that women have a variety of different reactions when they are faced with a partner who looks at porn. So, how do you respond when he looks at porn?

Many men have viewed pornography or pornographic images throughout their lives. Whether they do this in private and keep it secret from their partners, or whether they openly affirm the fact that porn is a part of their daily lives, it is important for women to recognize the fact that some men have simply worked viewing porn into their daily routines. Like a bad habit, this routine can frequently be hard to break, particularly in such a technologically advanced world where porn is easily accessible.

Before you confront your man concerning his porn, it is important that you understand exactly how YOU feel about it. If you are confused or uncertain about your own feelings about pornography, it will be much more difficult for you to communicate your thoughts to your partner. Take a step back and consider whether or not pornography serves as a healthy sexual outlet for your partner, or whether it has detrimental effects in your particular relationship. The bottom line is that pornography is harmless, until one partner has an issue with it.

If you don't have a particular issue with pornography, then it shouldn't be a problem when you come across your man's porn stash. However, if you DO have an issue with pornography, and it IS harming your relationship, then consider having an open, honest discussion with your partner about the effects that pornography is having not only on you, but also on your relationship as a whole.

Be sure that when you do have a discussion about porn with your partner, that you remain calm. Do not get upset, no matter how hurt you may feel. This is a particularly sensitive issue for many individuals, so it is important that you maintain an open, nonjudgmental environment. Part of the reason that many women have an issue with pornography is because they don't fully understand the reasons why their partners are viewing it. Now is the time to ask your man all of your questions. If you can strip away some of the mystery behind porn, you may find yourself being more

• 1
• 2
• Next Page >>