by Aries Star

Created on: March 25, 2009   Last Updated: March 27, 2009

I have a friend I have known for about 20 years and I have never interfered in her relationship. I think that if you know your friend really well it makes it easier to throw in your opinion to them, on the other hand if you are just meeting a friend or have known them for a year or so your still in the learning which buttons not to push stage . I would say no to interfering in a friends unhealthy relationships due to fact of it's his / her decision whether it is a good our bad relationship. When she needs advice she / he will ask when they are ready or ask her if she would like any of your comments , rather then say well your boyfriend / girlfriend doesn't treat him or her right , it is her choice to decide how she /he wants to be treated .

If it's to the point to where you start seeing bruises or a major change in her or his attitude then that is the cue to ask if everything is ok and how they are getting along with one another . The point is it all depends on how unhealthy it is and how they are being treated or treating each other in other words if they are constantly fighting to where they have company over then ask to talk to them in a different part of the room to try and find out whats been happening in the relationship . Open your mouth if you feel or see it is needed otherwise its best to stay out of , because if you just jump in their business it reflects on you and you might end up in the middle of it all where you don't want to be when something or any thing goes wrong .

My experience I had with my best friend and her guy they were constantly arguing and yelling at each other and I gave them my advice and it I ended up in the middle well she said this and you need to work on that it just doesn't go as planned , I have known her for years and I got bad mouthed . They where still learning each others temperaments and what buttons not to push, the beginning stages of the relationship . I still till this day stand back and keep my heart open to them , if they truly need it they will ask for help if needed to where they don't know what else to do besides separate.

I have been married twelve years and its good and bad but we listen to our friends advice and if we feel thats what we need to do we at least try to work on our relationship . Its not easy just to jump in especially if they truly feel they still love each other just hope things work out for the best and not the worst God knows when its there time to move on and start a new relationship.

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