by Maggi Thomas

Created on: March 25, 2009

Everybody dreams of a serene family. When we enter a married life, we have a lot of anticipations which are mostly driven by our dreams. There is a vast difference between planning and dreaming. A dream is in our thoughts and when we make a strategy to fulfill those dreams, it becomes planning. Same goes with parenthood. Parents can plan many things but the execution of the plan depends upon the prevailing situation. Therefore it is wise for parents not to dream of the future but to plan it, before arrival of the first child. Planning is necessary for the future of the child.

However, lots of things happen when you have kids. Most of your planning goes off in the air and all your wisdom fails when you hit the reality of having kids. Imagine this common situation where, while you are preparing your dinner, the elder one comes with a difficulty in solving a math problem. At the same time the phone rings and the younger one starts crying because he/she is hungry. At this points the elder one starts an argument on who needs your attention first and both start shouting at the top of their voice. Now, what will you choose to do? This is a tricky situation where all incidences needed priority.

Is it possible for kids to manage just one night without making chaos in the house? A pediatrician Brian Orr wrote in the January 2009 issue of Washington Family Magazine that all parents want peaceful home. It is not possible to expect home without quarrels among children. It is also very true that kids always sense what type of behavioral pattern will make their parents happy and they are happy to oblige them in the same way.

It is a well proven fact that children always follow their elders. If the adult at home pick up fights or arguments at every point, they observe it and develop the same tendency in their habits. As a parent, our attention is always targeted on our kids. It becomes the soul motive of the lives of most of the parents to groom their children in best of the ways. In many cases I have observed that how to raise the children in the right way becomes one of the major conflicts between the two parents. The funny part here is that the parents start fighting with each other on this issue like immature kids.

Most of the families have two or more kids. In such families' conflicts among the kids is a common occurrence. The typical situation that arises due to these conflicts is that each child tries to pull the parents on their sides. Each of them tries to prove how he/she

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