by forme

Created on: March 25, 2009   Last Updated: March 26, 2009

Sense parenting is learned and our parents are suppose to teach us all about life and how to be a good person, we would think that our parents would only teach us how to do the right thing. Well that's not always the case, sometimes you got parents that aren't very good parents and the children learn bad habits, now you have to ask yourself something.

Should I take these bad habits and do the same thing to my children? Or should I learn from the mistakes that my parent's made and teach my children what not to do? I'm a mother of a 16 month of little girl and 26 weeks pregnant with my second one, I had a horrible child hood and my parents never really taught me anything about life and love. I had to learn all of this on my own. In doing so I had to tell myself that I wanted to be a better parent than my parents were, so I took the mistakes that they had made and I used them to teach myself what not to do with my own children.

I learned that you should never call your children names, that you should always praise them for what they had done right and punish them appropriately for things that they had done wrong. You should never ever hit or abuse your children, there are other ways of dealing with stress or what they had done wrong. No child deserves to be abused and or treated badly. I've learned that being a mother is a gift and that you should never ever take it for granted, because some women don't get the option or the chance of being a mother.

I have learned not to live my life through my children, my mother always lived her life through my brother and sisters and I. I've learned that by living your life through your children that they are going to grow up very miserable and resent you for it in the long run. I've learned not to force my children to do anything that they don't want to do, I've learned that you have to set limits but you don't need to go over the line and push them into things that they don't want to do, and keep them from doing what they want to do.

Unless it's going to hurt them you should always allow your children to learn for themselves, never shelter them. If I've learned anything about what not to do from my parents, I've learned not to use your children as an excuse, that you should always show them love and attention and never take there presents for granted. I've learned never to treat your children the way your parent's treated you, everyone is different and deserves to be treated differently and deserves to be loved.

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