by Lydia Workman

Created on: March 24, 2009   Last Updated: March 25, 2009

A first date leaves many conversation topics open for discussion. If all goes well there should be no trouble getting a conversation going. This is a great chance to get to know another human being, so relax, enjoy yourself, and be yourself. There is absolutely no reason to be nervous. You are simply trying to find out whether you are a good match for your potential new suitor. This isn't a history exam, but a date. It should be fun and off the cuff. No need to brush up on any subjects beforehand.

Essentially any conversation topic you would feel comfortable discussing with people at a party is a great place to start. Anything light and not emotional in nature. It is advised to avoid discussing your past relationships on a first date. In addition, you might want to avoid discussing things which make you feel angry. Anything light, cheery, and fun can be a great place to start.

Hopefully the person you are out with has plenty in common with you. In fact, this is what you want to find out. If they are totally different from you it probably isn't a good idea to continue pursuing a relationship with them. But, if the conversation is riveting a second date may certainly be in the works.

If your date truly likes you he or she will want to get to know you better. Ask questions and be attentive to the answers. Really care about what the other person has to say. The dialogue could take many turns. You might talk about your family and upbringing. You can also talk about hobbies and interests. Hopefully you will find that you have a few things in common. This will greatly aid the conversation. Just be natural and don't pretend to be someone who you are not.

Local events and movies you have been out to see recently are perfect things to discuss. These are also great resources to discuss as you might want to think of other potential dates go out with your new companion on. It is always a bonus to discover that you like the same rock band or are both people who enjoy popping around to different art galleries.

If the conversation doesn't go so smoothly, it isn't the end of the world. Maybe the person you are out with just isn't the right person for you. Chances are a relationship will not work out very well if you cannot carry on a decent conversation with your date. Just have fun and don't fuss over what you are going to discuss. If you have a few pauses of silence, so be it. Maybe there will be another great date in the future for you.

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