by Angels Web

Created on: March 24, 2009   Last Updated: March 25, 2011

Death is Fate and Not Choice!

Children do not choose to die; they don't even know what death is! Death comes to all of us; it is inevitable and there is nothing that we can do to avoid it. We all have a time to die and when our time comes, there is always a reason. Unless we have a dreadful disease or are in unbearable pain, most people will choose life over death. Death is the end of our journey of life. It is like any other journey some are long and some are all too short. We do not get to choose when our journey ends; but we do have to accept what is meant to be.

Death of a loved one is always devastating to all of us that are left behind. There is no way to measure the pain and sorrow that we feel when we lose someone whom we love. When whole families are lost the pain and devastation are immeasurable! Even with the support of family and friends this type of loss is an unbearable burden. The first question we always seem to ask is "Why"? This question never has a suitable answer or an even an answer that we can accept. If we can accept our loss as fate, it does not necessarily lessen the pain; it can aid us in the acceptance of our loss. It takes a very long time to accept the loss of anyone whom we love. In time, we learn to accept our loss. We will always keep the love of those that we have lost in our hearts. Even though we heal, we miss those we love and will still shed a tear for them even after many years have gone by.

If people were given the choice, whether to live or die, most people would choose to live. People would never choose to die and cause the devastating pain that their loss brings to their family and friends. When we die it is supposed to mean that our destiny in this life has been fulfilled. Those of us, who are left behind, are left with love in our hearts and the emptiness of the loss. We are left with all the memories, feelings of love, and all the wonderful experiences that we shared together. Death of those we love show us how important it is to live life to its' fullest.

Most people have the ability to turn their loss into a blessing by helping other people. There are others that dishonor those they have lost by letting the tragedy destroy their life. When you die you want the people you love to go on with their lives. You do not want them to wallow in misery of your death. You want them to be able to continue to move forward and live a full, rich and happy life. There is no excuse to waste a life, even if it is your own. We die when our destiny or fate is fulfilled! Fate can seem cruel and harsh at times, when it leaves people to deal with so much pain and sorrow. This is the way that life is! No one on earth has the power to change the process or the reasoning behind it. Helping others helps us to help ourselves! It helps us to heal! Remember the old saying "Idle hands are the devil workshop"!

Most of us are alive, full of spirit, a part of a loving family with many wonderful friends. We cannot choose to die, we must choose to live! It is the responsibility of the living to spread the joy of life from one person to another. People who are full of love and hope could not possibly choose to die. They are people who would never want to leave the people who they love. They are filled with love, and they care and are content with their life. It is said that pain, and life’s' sorrows are what make us grow. There are times when life can be cruel and very hard, and this is all meant to be. Sometimes fate makes us grow more than we would wish, and that too is a part of life. Death is what makes us appreciate the time we have. Death is not a choice; it is fate and it is a given!

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