by Yvonne Mccormack

Created on: March 24, 2009

Communication in a relationship is very important, without it things can become strained. Problems don't get sorted out as quickly as they should. They escalate into something they are not. This makes the problem you started out with seem worse than it originally was in the beginning.

Its nice to see your husband or partner, showing little acts of love. They buy you flowers, or help with the cooking. While this is great, you cant beat words. Words stay with you for ever. A simple I love you speaks volumes. That kind word that you get from your husband when he has especially enjoyed his meal can make your day.

To be able to sit and communicate with each other will make your relationship so much stronger. Why would you want to go through a relationship without talking to each other. To be able to discuss every day things is a must. You make both of your lives much happier , and more fulfilled. You are much more content in your relationship when you talk things through.

All relationships have ups and downs. We wouldn't be human if we agreed on everything. When you have disagreements try not to use words in the negative tense. Words can inflict pain on your partner that they will not forget. Remember once you have said something, even if you say sorry after, and that you didn't mean what you said, you can't unsay it. Your partner might forgive you, but it's a lot harder for them to forget.

Words scar, and they have a habit of coming back to haunt you. Every time you have an argument your partner will remember what was said before. Use words wisely, so as not to cause any pain or hurt.

When a time comes to make a choice on a DIY job around the house you need to discuss it with your partner. If you go ahead on your own , your partner might not like what you have done, or the way you have done it. Why create a problem when all that was needed was a little communication. Who knows if you put your idea's together you might come up with something even better.

There are a lot of relationships today that have ended in divorce just because the couple didn't communicate with each other. Most of the time it's because they don't know how. They forget how to talk to each other. They forget how they used to be when their relationship first began. How they used to talk for hours about everything. How they would have huge phone bills because of the amount of time they spent talking.

What changed? Having children, and coping with every day life. Then being too tired at the end of the day to have a conversation with each other. We stop communicating, and just learn to show each other how we feel, instead of telling each other how we feel. This turns into habit, and communication stops.

Showing each other that you love and appreciate them is all very well, but when you put it into words it means so much more.

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