by Bella Of Chaos

Created on: March 24, 2009

Before we answer this I think we have to determine what we consider to be cheating. Is cheating physical only? Is emotional cheating, cheating? Or are both of them cheating and is any of it OK? I have to say that I feel both are wrong, but we all do it. I know what you're thinking as you sit here and reading this. You're thinking that I would never cheat on the person that I love and married or that I love and I'm with. But realistically there comes a point in our relationships that we might not physically cheat but that we emotionally cheat.

For example if you're going through a rough spot in your relationship and you are sitting there thinking about the friend that you have cried on their shoulder and they have helped keep your sanity through the rough spot in your life. I'm not saying that you're having a make out session I'm saying that your sitting there thinking why can't my guy be more understanding like so and so. Or if you have fantasies with other people. I'm not talking about the harmless fantasy about some star that you think is cute, but the best friend or the guy who knows all your deep dark secrets. How many of us are guilty of that? I won't lie I know that I have been guilty of that and I also feel that is wrong to emotionally cheat like that.

I also know that a good many of us think that we have valid reasons for cheating. I've heard the "It was a moment of weakness" or " I felt unloved and needed to feel loved again" or the " He did it first and turn about is fair play" and the famous " He was giving me what I needed that you were neglecting.". We can all toss the blame where ever we want but no matter what we all no deep down that cheating is wrong. It doesn't matter who was at fault to begin with.

We have to ask ourselves deep down what is the real reason we cheated. Is it because we're self destructive? Is it because we truly don't love the person? Is it because we are subconsciously getting back at our significant other? I mean there are many reasons that are valid that it does happen. I feel that cheating is wrong and most take it as an easy way out instead of dealing with their emotions and trying to work it out which is the harder thing to do. We shouldn't ever judge those who have cheated because we never know what life may bring our way. I guess in the end what counts the most is how the couple deals with the betrayal and whether or not they can move past it.

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