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What is responsibility, and where does it begin and end in the context of the parent-child relationship?

Responsibility means that an individual has a duty to another person, or to some component of his life such as a job, a family, friends, and so forth. Responsibility goes hand-in-glove with accountability, or the sense of taking ownership of one's actions.

A parent's responsibility, of course, begins at the moment of conception and continues at least through the teen years. A child's responsibility to his parents begins at birth and continues to adulthood, and often reintegrates as he and his parents mature.

Children go through many stages: infancy, toddlerhood, childhood, the teen years, and finally a transition to adulthood. Initially a child has no responsibility toward his parents, other than obedience, but he begins to test this at about age two; when he realizes that he cannot prevail, he progresses through childhood and again, at about age twelve, begins to assess and assert his relationship to his parents.

Still, his focus is himself, his friends, his interests, and he seldom considers the feelings of others or even, in extreme cases, his accountability and responsibility to parental or authority figures.

When a "child" turns eighteen, in most jurisdictions he is legally an adult. At this point, however, many "children" are still evolving and becoming adults. Some, of course, take longer to fully transition and for many this will not occur until much later - often, the parents are to blame by continuing to enable dependence.

A child's responsibility to his parents, upon reaching this transitional stage, is quite limited. This is a time to focus on his own needs and his own chosen path through life; this is a time to learn, yet still have a soft place to land when necessary, and a time to work toward his own self-defined goals. Ideally, of course, this transition has begun with toddlerhood and is merely taking a larger leap during the high school years.

The parent-child relationship is just that, the affiliation and dependence of one upon the other; a child must depend upon his parents, but parents should not depend upon their children during those early stages. The transition to adulthood should include less dependence of the child on the parents and is, by definition, the process of attaining independence.

Children do, however, have a limited responsibility to their parents and will certainly exhibit such if the parent-child relationship is strong, healthy,

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