People judge other people all the time, whether it is on size or looks or wealth. Is it fair? No. Does it happen? Yes. Judging other people based on the outside stuff is far too common.

All People are Judged-

Often we hear about people being judged for being fat. But it works the other way, too. People who are short and thin are judged just as harshly as those who are deemed "fat." It is somehow assumed, if we are thin and "tiny", hearing things like, "The wind could blow her over, ha, ha." Or "She looks anorexic to me.", doesn't hurt. But it does.

Body Image-

Everyone has something about their appearance or their bodies, in general, that could be judged. There isn't a person alive who doesn't have something about them which other people could view as a flaw. And any time those things are brought up, in public, it's embarrassing. No one wants you to look at them and point out the flaws. We all know what our supposed flaws are. Having others look at them closely and talk about them out loud isn't fun. For anyone.

We all need to be a little less critical. We need to look beyond weight and height and outward appearances and see who is inside that body. Bodies are just the housings. Inside is where the real person is.

What You Might Be Missing-

A good thing to think of is, if you meet someone who is extremely (Fill in the blank) and you decide not to get to know them because they are extremely (Fill in the blank) we may have missed out on the most important person in our lives. Outward appearances really don't mean that much. It is true that our society judges people on looks but the reality is, you can look great on the outside and be really disgusting on the inside. And it works both ways here, you can look less than appealing on the outside and be wonderful inside.

Next time you see someone who doesn't quite appeal to you, appearance-wise, remember they could look that way for a variety of reasons. Too fat or too thin can stem from health issues. You never know what path lead a person to how they look today. So, instead of making assumptions, you are better off getting to know the person inside of that body.

Teaching the Kids and Re-teaching Ourselves-

We need to teach our kids to focus on how people behave rather than how they look. If we can get across to our kids that looking like America's Top Model isn't essential but that doing the right things in life are, we'll all be better off.

Not only do we have to teach our kids that size is an aside but we have to re-learn it ourselves. We have to learn to love ourselves, as we are, right now. If we can learn to be comfortable with our size, we can then, feel better about who we are and then, we are less likely to judge the other guy on his size.

Looking Your Best-

Keeping all this in mind, everyone should try to look their best. The key words here are their best. And everyone's idea of what looks good and what doesn't is different. And everyone's capabilities are different, too. So looking your best is a personal thing. Chances are if you look your best, you'll feel good about yourself and even if someone judges you harshly based on your size, you won't care.

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