by Yvette Durham

Created on: March 23, 2009

We humans are a complex lot. Lets think of it this way; we're like colors. Neutral colors such as navy blue, black, grey or white tend to go with any other color. Bright bold colors such as red and pink, yellow and orange clash with one another. It happens. It's life.

But how do two people that clash- say a strong red and a fuchsia pink- get along?

A key word here is tolerance. Indeed if only every living soul on this planet could practice a little tolerance. War's would dissolve, conflicts settle. But let us apply it to two people who's personalities are diametrically opposed. Allow me to exemplify with my elder sister and I. She is a staunch Atheist with a sharp tongue and a tough exterior. I, on the other hand, am emotional, sensitive, Spiritual and, okay, a bit of a softy. If we weren't sisters we wouldn't have anything to do with one another. You know what though? We're as close as two sisters can be. Don't get me wrong, we've had many acid arguments, ugly fights and months of non-communication in the past. But we have learnt to embrace our differences and respect one another's ideologies. For example, becoming Spiritual has had a profound and magical effect on my life. Naturally, I want to share this joy with those I love. My sister often gets angry or argumentative if I mention anything to do with the subject. Two weeks ago she got married in Mexico. The whole family went out there for a week. Before we left she asked me not to mention anything to do with Spirituality. So I didn't. Not a word. I respect her. We've realized that, in fact, we have so many similarities and we concentrate on those.

We need to learn to focus on the good points of those people we dislike. I hear you; you can't think of any. Yes you can. Think harder. Everyone of us has redeeming features. Sometimes our hatred of that person gets in the way of us seeing these positive qualities. Have you seen the film The Secret?' Use the Law of Attraction. If you concentrate on their negative points-they're annoying, rude, selfish- that's what you'll experience more of from them. What you resist persists. So don't allow yourself to gossip behind their backs or grumble and gripe about what they've done today to aggravate you. Instead focus on what's good about them- write it down even. It could be something small; they have a bold sense of fashion or there's never a dull moment when you're around them. Try it; I know from experience that it works. My Minister today at Church was speaking about

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