by Lydia Workman

Created on: March 22, 2009

Lust is often confused with love. If you have lustful feelings for a person, one would certainly hope that love is a part of the equation as well. Sometimes a lustful relationship is one which does not work well in any other regard.The person might be a knock out in the physical area, but dumb as a door knob. If intelligence is important to you, you certainly would have trouble loving somebody who isn't alll that bright.

There are many ways to tell if lust is the motivating factor in a relationship. Do you have a hard time talking to your partner? Are you incompatible? Do you head straight for the bedroom when meeting up with each other? If you answer yes to these questions, lust is definitely present. It still isn't easy to tell whether the relationship is simply based on lust. People who love each other can certainly have a hard time talking to each other. Sometimes lustful feelings are overpowering to a relationship and confuses the mind. When feeling extreme lust it is perfectedly understandable that one might question whether love is present

Lust will usually die down after a while. You will not enjoy the person's company outside of the bedroom. You won't feel the desire to get to know them on a deeper level. Love is really caring about another person, and that amounts to more than sexual attraction. Having feelings of respect for your partner indicates a love relationship.

A lustful relationship may suit some people perfectedly well for a time. Love is something to think about if you see yourself with the same person for the long haul. And, chances are that you love that person if you do envision them as a part of your future.

On the other hand, some potentially loving relationships can be torn apart by lust. You might have found the right sort of person, but become intimate too soon. If this intimacy did not turn out as well as hoped for, it can certainly destroy the relationship. One tends to feel rather silly about not being all that they could be on a sexual level.

In addition, lustful relationships can certainly be confused with love. As you interact sexually with another person mother nature plays many tricks which might seem very similar to love. As human beings we are wired to associate love with sex. Having sex with the same person repeatedly might simulate those feelings of love.

If a person does not meet up to what you expect in a partner, it is best to abandon the lustful relationship and find someone better. For each person what they are looking for differs. In some cases opposites really do attract. You certainly don't need to be a replicate of another person to be in love with them. Sometimes a partner who is very different from yourself can enhance your life in the most delightful way by making up for the imbalances in yourself. Other times two different people are just simply incompatible and the relationship isn't worth saving.

The easiest way to tell the difference between lust and love is to look at how you feel about the person. Lust might temporarily blind us, but generally we can understand what we want in a person we are having a relationship. If we are wise enough to know what we want.

But, if you really can't decide whether it is lust or love, just take a vacation from sexual activity and see if you still enjoy the person's company. Chances are if you have to ask yourself whether it's love or not, it wouldn't be love.

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