by Jen Bonds

Created on: March 22, 2009   Last Updated: March 28, 2009

I was twenty-two years old when I found Jesus. Living with my boyfriend and our one year old daughter was not exactly the lifestyle of a Christian as I quickly learned. I was living in sin, not being married while living with my significant other was an issue that kept me from joining the church that I got saved in.

The pastor came to my home and spoke with Adam, trying to save his soul also, but Adam would have no part of it. Adam was a wonderful father and provider. We loved and trusted each other very deeply. He had married his high school sweetheart right out of school and they got divorced about a year before I had met him. He had been hurt and was not ready to get married. We were content with being committed to each other and living together. I knew that he was a good man worthy of my love and devotion even if he had not been saved.

The pastor spoke with me regarding my living arrangements and told me that my boyfriend appeared to be the type of guy that would not commit. He told me that the Christian thing for me to do would be to get rid of this sin, which would be to leave Adam. This was very discouraging to hear since we had been together for three years and had a daughter together. Was I suppose to leave him, destroying my family, to get rid of this sin out of my life? I was a new Christian and did not know anything about how to live the way God wanted me to. But would God want me to do this?

I spoke with my boyfriend about getting married. We talked about it and I explained to him my reasons. Of course loving him was the number one reason. Being saved left me with a burning desire to rid my life of sin. He did not understand this but he listened to my feelings and concerns on this matter.

I did not leave him as the pastor had recommended. I started reading my Bible and visiting other churches to help me grow in my knowledge of God's word. I soon learned that we are all sinners. No matter what, our lives will never be free of sin. Jesus was the only one on this Earth that was free of sin. The pastor had wanted me to live by God's word, but I believed that God has a plan for us all and that destroying my family was not what God had planned for me. I prayed and believed in my heart that God would make things work out with this man that I deeply loved.

I have been a Christian now for seven years. My "boyfriend" has been my husband for six years now. I am thankful that I did not leave and that I trusted that God would take care of my situation. Adam has

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