by Joyce M. George-Knight

Created on: March 21, 2009   Last Updated: March 22, 2009

When I hear news reports or read articles concerning the frequency or infrequency of love making, I wonder where the reporters got their statistics from. Certainly if they use telephone or Internet surveys, they do not expect people will answer honestly. Or do they? Isn't it the nature of humans to embellish a wee bit. It's like weaving a basket. Add some of this color then some of that color to make it more beautiful. I wonder, "Is the real question,"how frequently do people make love?' or should it be, how do couples celebrate love making?"

For one, I don't care how frequently anybody makes love. The more interesting story would be concerning how loved each partner makes the other feel. Anybody can make love. For most of us, to demonstrate true love and affection takes more time and effort, which in turn makes it more appreciated.

Just what makes us feel loved? It could be sharing eye-to-eye contact upon hearing something that relates to you as a couple that nobody else knows about. For that instant, you drawn together by a special connection. Yes, it's a love connection.

Holding hands and feeling the life pulse of each other, while sharing a mutual warmth inside and out, is special, no matter how often you hold hands. Age should never enter into this demonstration of love. This demonstration links us together in a manner that silently conveys a unity strong enough to endure whatever life has in store.

When you kiss, is it a quick peck? Or during the quick lip-to-lip kiss, do you consciously think about the feeling that rapidly shoots through your body as your lips softly smooch together? By simply being conscious of the act of kissing, you can feel loved and convey love through focusing on the present.

An easy means of acknowledging love is to consciously think about some action that could make your partner glow with happiness. Perhaps it would be to have breakfast served in bed; to come home and find the laundry washed, dried, folded and put away; to have lunch prepared and ready to take to work or to have a babysitter arranged so you can take her out for an evening of togetherness. All it really takes is some focusing and putting yourself in your partner's shoes, or recalling something he or she said, and making your partner's life easier or special in a way only you can make the difference.

Like I said, any two individuals can make love, but to demonstrate one's love requires thoughtful consideration, action and being tuned in to one's own feelings while doing so. It is love making that counts for far more than any number of times spent making love. These demonstrations of love making will be treasured and stored in memory forever.

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