by Amy Wilber

Created on: March 21, 2009

Children in the world today are often born in a world that is often overwhelming, dangerous, and confusing. They are introduced to different environments and situations that may require a substantial amount of guidance and reflections of cause and effect. They may be exposed to peer- pressure, drugs, sex, and crime and it is every parent's fear of what their life holds for them in the future. Many parents have a variety of tactics that they hope will help them to succeed and live and happy and successful life. The way in which they tackle this goal varies and has often become controversial. The way a parent motivates their children to succeed often reflects from the parent's actions and the children's response to the stimuli that the parent introduces to them.

Many children who have no one to motivate them to lead a successful life often turn to violence, crime, and being a school dropout. Children need to be nurtured and shaped into the person that they want to be. The parent has the responsibility of offering wisdom, guidance, and support for the child in all they do.

In today's economy meltdown, it is important for the parent to teach their children the severity of not having a proper education and the ability to make a life for themselves. There is a difference in being so strict in your children's lives and the ability to motivate your child so they have no inhibitions in becoming confident and striving to succeed in their own way.

You should never use physical force to motivate your children into doing accomplishing things better. What does that prove other than the fact that you have more power than them and they cannot do anything but comply out of fear? Talk to your children about problems they are facing in completing a task that is daunting to them.

This will open a gateway to allow them to come to you with any problem they face while trying to become a more successful and independent person giving them the opportunity to pave the way to the future. Praise your children when they do well in school but do not chastise them if they tried their best and received below average results. Support them in the best way only you know will benefit your child. A small reward may constitute as a bribe but if it is done only when they achieve the greatest accomplishments then they are motivated to attempt to do their best every time. This will allow them to learn more and become focused in all they do while being recognized for what they achieve.

If there is no motivation and only punishment for their failures they will no longer be able to strive for the best in the future and will pass on endeavors for fear of failure based on past experiences. They will not only fear their actions in the future but they will also have a fear of you and your approval in all they do.

Their self esteem for themselves will whittle their hearts to nothing and they will go through life thinking that they are never good enough for anything or anyone they come into contact with. This will include employment, relationships and family.

Your children need to feel that they have done a good job and a simple thing as a hug or a trip to a local ice cream parlor might seem trivial but might mean the world to your children because they would know how proud you are of them and they will be more likely to repeat their actions in the future and be a source of information for others in the process.

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