by Norah faith

Created on: March 20, 2009   Last Updated: March 21, 2009

Every married couple would like to have a marriage that will last until the end of time, but what if suddenly the dreaded occurs and you want to get divorced? Here's some advice to avoid a pending divorce.

It may be that there has been a problem in your household for a while and you didn't realize it and then all off a sudden the word "divorce" comes up.

The first step that you need to take in order to find a solution is to find out the reason for the suggestion to divorce.

It may be that the cause is just a minor problem that could easily be resolved if both spouses find reasonable compromises. Or it may be that there's a more serious problem that can only hoped to be resolved by divorce. Whatever the reason may be, finding out and being sure of the reason is a step that must be taken so that you can begin to decide if divorce is really necessary.

Once you know the reason why you or your spouse wants a divorce you must both look deep into your hearts and remember what it was that brought you together to begin with and let the petty things go. Be willing to take an honest look at yourselves not each other. This will be difficult, and you may not want to accept the fact that you are the cause of wanting to divorce and you may be ashamed to admit your faults. Patiently look at yourself and consider every reason that you or your spouse has given for wanting a divorce. How much of it is really petty once you think about it calmly? How much of it is easily fixable? Try and fix your problems now and avoid heartbreak and being separated from the love of your life because no matter how much you may think you want it, a divorce is very painful emotionally for both spouses, and for your children.

If you know the source of conflicts, arguments and problems explain your side and apologise. You don't need to act like you're not the cause of any of the problems. Sometimes just letting your spouse know that you know your behavior is not always right will really lighten things up.

Spending some time apart can give each other time to calm down, think clearly, and remember all of the good things about your spouse that usually outweigh the bad by far.

You can peacefully think about what's been irritating you and decide which problems aren't really problems at all. Spending time apart can also give you a taste of what it will be like if you actually did get divorced.

Must you actually leave the house?

If you are still in love, think you are, or still want to be in love then it's best to

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