by Carrie Brandon

Created on: March 20, 2009

My best friends and I have a unspoken vow - thy shalt not covet thy best-friends boyfriend... however not all best friends have such a rule. In-fact there are a vast amount of people in the world who find themselves on the receiving end of such a betrayal. And this of course means there are a vast amount of girls in the world who would and do sleep with their best friends man. So much for the bonds of sisterhood .....The question remains though. Could you forgive someone who had slept with the man you where dating?

The question itself is open for interpretation. Some people may feel the betrayal would hurt less if the relationship had only just started. Some men may think that if the two friends aren't that close , the friendship wouldn't really be missed in the end. Maybe the man in question isn't someone your actively dating , rather someone you like a lot and hope to date in the near future.Maybe your relationship has become stale and rather than end it with you , he's taken the cowards way out. In some cases yeah your partner may feel strongly towards your friend, I dare even suggest they may have fallen in love. But your partner and friend should have at least spoken to you first before jumping in the sack. Perhaps their own personal greed and quest for satisfaction may just be more important to them than consequence or who they may be hurting in the process. It happens. Sometimes when you really want something , your ability to feel guilt or think about consequences is lessened and all you think about is getting what you want.This isn't an excuse as such, but a statement. But sadly this statement wouldn't be of any comfort to a spouse or girlfriend who had just discovered her friend had slept with her man.Having your man cheat on you is devastating enough. But factor in the fact it was with someone you consider a friend and you have a whole new level of betrayal. Because the trust you shared with both these people has been broken. And not only have you lost the trust from a relationship, but a friendship too. It's almost like a double blow.

The truth is it's not something that's easily forgotten. Which makes it extremely hard to forgive. I know because I've been there. I won't go into detail but yes I was with my boyfriend for 8 months and he cheated on me with someone I actually considered to be a close friend . And what was worse was that I found out from another friend , months after it had happened - two people betrayed me yet couldn't even tell me

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