by Krystle Hernandez

Created on: March 19, 2009

For some reason, a large percentage of our society feels that they need to be in a relationship in order to feel that their lives are complete, satisfied, or fulfilled. While some individuals may spend their whole lives seeking a partner that they feel suits them well, someone with whom they can share all of life's experiences, the reality of the matter is that divorce rates today hover around 50%. Therefore, the majority of relationships, even those that result in marriages, ultimately break up. That being said, many people often wonder, "Can you be complete when alone?"

First and foremost, it is important to understand the fact that we are all essentially born in to this world and we all ultimately die completely alone. Sure, when we are born, we may be (ideally) presented with loving parents. And, at the end of our lives we may be surrounded with friends and family members at our deathbeds. But, essentially we go through lives "alone" because of the fact that we are unable to share ourselves completely with other people.

No matter how much we try, no matter how great we are at communicating effectively, the fact of the matter is that there is absolutely no way that someone else can share every single random thought we have, or be there for every second of each day of our lives. We communicate only the most important aspects of our daily lives to other people. Our "best friends," "soul-mates," or "life partners" are ultimately only privy to what we decide to share with them. Although they can try, there is no fathomable way for them to see things completely from our point of view, because no one is 100% unbiased.

So, can you be complete when you are alone? The answer is a resounding Y-E-S, YES! You are an individual. You have your own, unique body, and your own, unique mind. You have a personal history that you cannot share completely with any other person in the world. You are shaped by your individual experiences in life. Therefore, each and every person should acknowledge and celebrate the fact that he or she is one hundred percent complete without a partner.

For many single people, this realization may be life saving. So many people waste away every day of their lives in an attempt to fill a void within themselves with other people. No one else is completely capable of making you happy, nor are they responsible for your happiness. You have to learn how to make yourself happy and how to enjoy your individual experience of life before you can even attempt to

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